When Parents Won’t Accept the Home Care Help they Need
For many seniors, it is difficult to accept the care they need. If this sounds like your parents, there are solutions that can help!
Admitting and acknowledging the need for help is not an easy thing, particularly when it comes to personal care and matters of the home. Accepting help often comes with feelings associated with loss of independence, as well as the challenge of acknowledging that abilities have become diminished. Acknowledging this reality can be devastating.
If someone important to you is hesitant or unwilling to accept help, it is important to respect the way they are feeling, and to acknowledge how difficult this time must be for them.
It is also important, however, that the necessary care be implemented.
Both these realities need to be considered as you attempt to create a suitable arrangement, in a way that is respectful and also allows for more ease in this lifestyle change.
Remember to always be patient, and try keeping these suggestions in mind:
- Introduce the idea gradually and allow ample time for processing and acceptance.
- Offer a trial period. Your loved one may be willing to try engaging with a Support Worker if they feel they have the freedom to change their minds.
- Frame it differently. Sometimes people are more able to accept a Support Worker’s help if it is framed as something that will be beneficial for the family caregiver.
- Start the Support Worker with household chores, rather than personal or “hands on” care.
- Slowly introduce these additional forms of care and tasks as familiarity and comfort grow.
- Take your parent to visit some nursing homes as a way to explore their options. Many seniors would rather remain in their homes, and might be more willing to accept help if it means they can stay there rather than enter a nursing home.
- Often people will listen to their doctor. Ask their doctor to suggest a plan that includes a Support Worker.
- Often, cost for services is a major concern. Remember to be sensitive to the reality that most of today’s seniors grew up in the Depression and World War years. Money is always on their mind.
The Retire-At-Home Approach in Greater Sudbury:
For over 20 years, Retire-At-Home has been acquainted with the commonly experienced resistance to accept help. Most of our services are initiated by children or family members of loved ones, and many of these cases involve the task of helping individuals through the process of acknowledge and accepting that they may be in need help in their homes.
For this reason, the process at Retire-At-Home in Greater Sudbury begins with a free, no-obligation consultation with a nurse. This consultation includes a guided, one-on-one conversation concerning all of the worries, fears, and areas of resistance that your loved-one may be facing. Our nurses are often able to convince individuals that the care they need is the care they want, by making sure that know they will be able to maintain a feeling of independence and agency.
We recommend introducing services gradually, and make sure that we gather feedback from our clients to ensure that they feel they are being heard and consulted through the decision making process.
If you are experiencing the dilemma of your aging parents refusing care, contact us today to discuss the situation to see if our caring professionals can help.
We proudly serve the following communities in and around Greater Sudbury:
Greater Sudbury, Whitefish, Chelmsford, Azilda, Lively, Copper Cliff, Espanola, Nairn Centre, Wahnapitae, Blezard Valley, Walden, Val Caron, Hanmer, Dowling, Flour Mill, Southend, Webbwood, Worthington, Naughton, Little Current, Donavan.
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